“Owning your piece of the pie” means accepting responsibility for your own role in a situation. I’ve watched people on the old tv box this morning once again place blame for their chosen and intentional behavior on someone else and it’s childish. Just plain childish. Any grown mature human knows that everyone who reported, posted, shared and commented on ugly, mean, inflammatory, and hateful ideas (even though they thought them to be hysterically funny or a means to a chosen end) own a piece of the pie that is our current social temperature and lack of civility toward our fellow human. That’s the truth. Every person who has spouted off on entire groups of people that they do not know nor have any desire to know, with a myriad of nasty descriptors owns the ugly in our communities right now. They own this. Whether willing to admit it or not, they own this. And it doesn’t matter who you blame because…

WE own the solution.Isn’t that an empowering thought?

One of the most important lessons learned in this very serious time is that “it’s hard to know who to take seriously”. In other words, there’s so much hateful rhetoric that those with clear intentions to do harm blend with those who are just “spouting off”. So, why don’t we, who have no intention of doing harm, stop spouting off so that it’s easier to know who we need to take seriously? Civility means formal politeness and courtesy in behavior or speech. We do need to return to civility if we are truly serious about “peace on earth, good will to all.”

Be civil, all day, every day. Be helpful without being hurtful.

They will know we are Christians by our love.

And if you are having a hard time during this period of our history and want to meet for a coffee or a tea and chat, let me know. Your peace is important to me. ☕🍩☮️

When we make this effort our piece (or peace) of the pie, we change everything.